We naturally form ties with our family, relatives and/or close friends – just like David did with Jonathon. 1 Samuel 18:1 tells us that ‘…the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.
But the opposite is also possible! The enemy will allow people to come into our lives to form ungodly ties and attachments. These attachments will usually be very appealing to the flesh but toxic to the spirit!
1 Corinthians 15:33 ‘Do not be deceived: bad company corrupts good morals.’
God is intentional in all He does. He will help us form Godly friendships and relationships so we can receive wisdom, encouragement and fellowship through those Godly associations.
Another way we form healthy Godly ties or attachments is through marriage as two become one. Matthew 19:5 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined inseparably to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’
Ungodly Soul Ties
But ungodly soul ties are formed if someone has sex outside of marriage as the bible tells us it’s wrong. (2. Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2) Or if someone is drawn to their first love or repeatedly goes over what happened, when they were together, they may be soul-tied. Others may have ‘feelings’ towards an old partner as a consequence of a tie that was formed.
Some become obsessed with celebrities and will even go to the extreme of decorating their home with posters and memorabilia of their favourite celebrity. Or if you can’t stop ‘thinking’ about a person then it could be an unhealthy soul tie. Additionally, if someone is asserting pressure over you or controlling you, over and above their role or friendship this may be an indication of an unhealthy soul-tie and it needs breaking in Jesus name.
Unhealthy soul ties can also be used against us. I prayed with a young man at a conference and he was in a sexual relationship with someone who was into the occult. He was a Christian but was in a mess as he had overstepped the boundaries of God’s protection, and what was in her was able to transfer to him. But thankfully, God is always gracious to forgive, forget and heal!
How to break soul ties
- REPENTANCE: Firstly take time to repent to the Lord. He knows it all anyway but for our benefit, we need to offload to the Lord. If the soul tie was formed through sex outside marriage tell the Lord how sorry you are. Maybe it was through drug-taking with someone, or a drinking buddy give it to the Lord. Do you have an obsession with a celebrity tell the Lord. If you can’t remember all the names of those with who you’ve been physically intimate with – don’t panic! God will hear the sincere petition of your heart if you do a job lot.
- FORGIVENESS: Forgive the person/people for your own benefit, if they have hurt or harmed you, and choose to let them go, also forgive yourself.
- RENUNCIATION: Any inner vows, commitments, statements etc that helped create the soul tie need to be repented and renounce.
Say this out loud and edit where necessary.
In the name of Jesus Christ, I repent and renounce all vows, statements, commitments which I have made, knowingly or unknowingly, against myself or anyone else. I specifically renounce……… (Name any vows which you have made, which you know to be wrong. It could be that you said you’d never love another person, or that you’d rather die than marry anyone else). I come out of agreement with those vows/statements and place the cross of Jesus between the law of sowing and reaping. I ask You, Lord, to totally cleanse me and set me free.
By the power of Jesus Christ, His death and resurrection, I take the sword of the spirit and I renounce, break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and *[say the name of the person] and I give the person back to you and I take myself back from [say the name of the person] and give myself back to you. I seal the ends in the blood of the lamb never to be reattached.
I want to add that U can also form them thru doing married non sexual things as well. It’s not just sex. We must be very careful when pursuing each other in a married way. It forms ungodly attachments & bonds that shouldn’t be. Guardrails need to be in place before anything occurs. Simply allowing the voice of God thru the Holy Spirit lead U into marriage is the best way to protect yourself & the other person. It’s not just important but vital.
That is exactly right Scott and we definitely need Holy Spirit to guide us in everything! x
I recently (almost 2 & half months now) experienced forming a soul tie through a very unhealthy obsession with a celebrity, even though I am aware he had passed away over a decade ago..! I’ve always admired his immense talent & work in my youth but never thought much about it in later years.The Covid19 pandemic lockdown had me staying mostly locked in at home since March 18th. And I was missing working at my office a lot.I guess this state of mind I was in suddenly led me to start reading up pages online about him, his life, career, his first family, etc.I got so engrossed in the details of his life, I didn’t realise that I was forming an emotional attachment to him.Soon I was watching his videos, live performances, TV interviews etc.With each day, my admiration of him increased to a point of an obsession, leading to romantic fantasy, where often my first thoughts on waking up in the mornings would be about him!! So early this month, for several days I prayed a 10 mins. soul-tie breaking prayer I found online before I got a breakthrough in my spirit.
I still do struggle with random thoughts about this celebrity, I dont feel totally free & am standing in Gods promises to set me free completely. I still struggle to restrain myself from searching pages online for material on his life & work..It just seems hard to get over completely.
But Jesus will set me free!
Bless you Elizabeth, I have repled to your email address but will pray for you to be set free in Jesus name! x
Thanks Shauna.Yes I ve received your message.
Thanks for praying for me.
Wow thank you Shauna for explaining soul ties. I knew about them but didn’t realise that they could be connected to following celebrities as well. Thanks to Elizabeth’s sharing and honesty I am able to break free from more soul ties that I did not realise were there. Praise and glory to God for you both.
Bless you Theresa, such power in a testimony xx
Thanks for the valuable information about soul ties. I have one question. Can soul ties be formed through sexual fantasies about somone? Please im going through a rough time with letting go of this soul tie that i have possibly developed. Thanks
Hi Caleb, sorry to hear you’re struggling at this time. But yes soul ties can be formed through any sexual encounter, including any fantasy. As you’re emotionally and physically connecting. If you can, I would advise you to spend time surrendering the fantasy, repenting and renouncing then cutting yourself off spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically, also breaking soul ties, with the fantasy and the person/s involved. Also spend time surrendering your imagination and asking the Lord to cleanse it from any images etched in your mind, or places you escape to. There may be other issues or habits that also need to be addressed especially if you’ve viewed pornography or had sexual relations that haven’t been repented of. Here is a ‘Sexual Healing Prayer’ that may help, download it here I am not the author of the prayer, it is originally from Wildatheart.org and I am not affiliated with them – just thought their prayer was very comprehensive!
Praying for you Caleb