We naturally form ties with our family, relatives and/or close friends – just like David did with Jonathon. 1 Samuel 18:1 tells us that ‘…the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.
But the opposite is also possible! The enemy will allow people to come into our lives to form ungodly ties and attachments. These attachments will usually be very appealing to the flesh but toxic to the spirit!
1 Corinthians 15:33 ‘Do not be deceived: bad company corrupts good morals.’
God is intentional in all He does. He will help us form Godly friendships and relationships so we can receive wisdom, encouragement and fellowship through those Godly associations.
Another way we form healthy Godly ties or attachments is through marriage as two become one. Matthew 19:5 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined inseparably to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’
Ungodly Soul Ties
But ungodly soul ties are formed if someone has sex outside of marriage as the bible tells us it’s wrong. (2. Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2) Or if someone is drawn to their first love or repeatedly goes over what happened, when they were together, they may be soul-tied. Others may have ‘feelings’ towards an old partner as a consequence of a tie that was formed.
Some become obsessed with celebrities and will even go to the extreme of decorating their home with posters and memorabilia of their favourite celebrity. Or if you can’t stop ‘thinking’ about a person then it could be an unhealthy soul tie. Additionally, if someone is asserting pressure over you or controlling you, over and above their role or friendship this may be an indication of an unhealthy soul-tie and it needs breaking in Jesus name.
Unhealthy soul ties can also be used against us. I prayed with a young man at a conference and he was in a sexual relationship with someone who was into the occult. He was a Christian but was in a mess as he had overstepped the boundaries of God’s protection, and what was in her was able to transfer to him. But thankfully, God is always gracious to forgive, forget and heal!
How to break soul ties
- REPENTANCE: Firstly take time to repent to the Lord. He knows it all anyway but for our benefit, we need to offload to the Lord. If the soul tie was formed through sex outside marriage tell the Lord how sorry you are. Maybe it was through drug-taking with someone, or a drinking buddy give it to the Lord. Do you have an obsession with a celebrity tell the Lord. If you can’t remember all the names of those with who you’ve been physically intimate with – don’t panic! God will hear the sincere petition of your heart if you do a job lot.
- FORGIVENESS: Forgive the person/people for your own benefit, if they have hurt or harmed you, and choose to let them go, also forgive yourself.
- RENUNCIATION: Any inner vows, commitments, statements etc that helped create the soul tie need to be repented and renounce.
Say this out loud and edit where necessary.
In the name of Jesus Christ, I repent and renounce all vows, statements, commitments which I have made, knowingly or unknowingly, against myself or anyone else. I specifically renounce……… (Name any vows which you have made, which you know to be wrong. It could be that you said you’d never love another person, or that you’d rather die than marry anyone else). I come out of agreement with those vows/statements and place the cross of Jesus between the law of sowing and reaping. I ask You, Lord, to totally cleanse me and set me free.
By the power of Jesus Christ, His death and resurrection, I take the sword of the spirit and I renounce, break and sever any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and *[say the name of the person] and I give the person back to you and I take myself back from [say the name of the person] and give myself back to you. I seal the ends in the blood of the lamb never to be reattached.